The following is a parable (a story that illustrates one or more principles). This story is loosely based on a true story, but the details have been changed for privacy. The purpose here is to present a helpful lesson for one and all. Thank you.
Once upon a time there was an older couple and they were the best of friends and partners for life. They always shared
their time and their thoughts with each other. They also shared a mutual love for a younger couple, since the younger man was a close relative of the older man. The younger man's wife had recently been hospitalized and her husband was by her side constantly. The older couple were concerned and kept in touch with the young husband and his wife by way of hospital visits and phone calls. The young woman continued to have issues and the young husband asked that the older couple hospital hold off with the visits, so the older couple kept in touch with phone calls and emails.
And then something changed between the older couple. The older man drew inward with gloom and anguish due to dismal thoughts about the status of the young woman's health. It was as if the older man had a dark cloud hanging over his head. He turned inward and kept to himself. This caused him to become grumpy and depressed. His wife attempted to reassure him by saying that the young woman would improve but the hopeful message was ignored.. The older wife was troubled because she didn’t know what to do for her husband, so she prayed for an answer. The answer came when the older couple received word that the young woman was doing much better and they could come to the hospital for a visit. The older wife felt that her husband's mood would surely brighten with the visit, so they hurried to the hospital with excitement.
Upon reaching the hospital room, the older man rushed ahead and entered the room. Before the older woman could enter, the husband slammed the door shut, leaving the older woman standing alone in the hallway. In shock, the older woman opened the door and stepped into the room and stood behind her husband as she gave a nod to the young husband and his young wife. The older woman quietly listened to her husband's conversation so she could gain a sense of what was going on with him. She heard him exclaim how relieved he was that the younger woman was better. He went on to say that he alone had been praying unceasingly, and that he deeply loved both of them, all the while ignoring his wife. The older woman was relieved that her husband seemed to be uplifted and she was touched that he was able to open up to the younger couple. However, his words and actions caused his wife to feel as if she had been dismissed as an outsider.
The older woman stewed and stirred all night with troubled thoughts, sending prayers up until God helped her realize that it was necessary for her to help him open up to her so they could regain, that which had been temporarily lost. In turn, the older woman made another attempt to talk to her husband. She asked why, if they were a couple, why did he cast her aside so easily when had his heart-to-heart with the younger couple. The older man was unaware of the woman's hurt feelings nor could he explain his actions or his words, but he did apologize and hugged his wife.
You may be asking about now; what's the moral to the parable? The lesson in this story is this; just as a gardener lovingly tends to his garden, especially if a cold snap puts the garden in grave risk, every relationship needs to be tenderly cultivated and cared for so it can grow and flourish. An important tool is to NEVER LET THE COMMUNICATION DIE.
Proverbs 16:23 "A wise man’s heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction"
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It
does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Kathy Goodhew, author
A Vision Beyond Abuse
The Hidden Ones "Awakened" (book 1)
The Hidden Ones "Confluence' (book 2)
I sense a need for something greater than self. So, I am led by Christ's love to be an encourager as I share about His faithfulness and grace.